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- A man was preparing to visit a college friend with two other friends, when the person who would be hosting them unexpectedly changed the plan
- The host decided to do a road trip out of the city with his brother and his brother’s friends instead of staying at home and exploring the city as was initially planned
- “What was supposed to be a week with my college friends has turned into mostly a road trip in a shared car with like [five] other people I don’t know well,” said the man
A man is not happy with his college friend’s last-minute change of plans.
The 24-year-old shared in a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, that he was planning to visit his 25-year-old friend from college with two other friends, and was “excited to spend some time with all of them” until the friend he was planning to visit “flipped the script on us.”
“He now wants to do a road trip out of his city for [five] days, so during most of the stay, when we’re all there,” the Redditor said, adding that the road trip would be with his friend’s brother and the brother’s friends.
He noted that he had discussed going on a “two-day” road trip with his friend before, with just their friends. However, for this trip, the 24-year-old was left in the dark, and he said his friend was organizing the trip with his brother and others.
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“My friend who’s hosting and his brother have already planned the [five] day road trip and want us all to confirm as soon as possible so they can make reservations,” the man said.
“I guess I’m frustrated that what was supposed to be a week with my college friends has turned into mostly a road trip in a shared car with like [five] other people I don’t know well,” he continued, adding, “We’re all going to be in the same car together for a long time.”
He noted that while he would be there for two weeks, his other two friends would only be there for one week. He added that the others who would be joining the trip “are international” and though he’s “hung out with them before,” he knows they are “always gonna be speaking their language with each other.”
“We’re gonna have a group call tonight with my friends, and I don’t wanna come off as a bad person when talking to them about it, I guess another perspective would help here,” he said before opening up the forum for advice.
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One person suggested that if the man didn’t feel comfortable with the change of plans, he should bow out. The person wrote “you agreed to the plans originally made and not this new one or these new people. just explain that to them if they don’t get it then that’s there problem.”
Another person added that he wasn’t in the wrong, especially if he’s not 100% “sure this new experience won’t be fun for you, and you don’t have the energy and time to find out.”
Another third commenter suggested that he instead make plans with his other friends “since your friend that’s hosting made other plans without consulting you.” They added, “If not, then stay home and do something else. Or just go with your friends for 1 week instead of 2.”
The 24-year-old said the story ultimately had a happy ending, as he told his friends his thoughts and “they ended up agreeing that the trip was too long and we were moving too quickly planning it,” which led to them “cancelling the road trip.”
“We’re back to the original plan of staying in the city. So [it] all worked out!,” the Redditor said.
